In every Latin community from LA to Argentina, there is always one Latina in a group, or school, or class, who is the “coolest” when she talks about spending time with men.
It seems that this particular Latina always seems to be rewarded by being called “cool” by the men.
Some women have this quality naturally.
But there is a way to behave (that anyone can learn) and then use this style to adapt their behavior. It makes life easier.
Christian Carter is an American dating coach who helps women understand the male mind, explained about how “cool” girls act that is different: Here are a few of the ‘’cool latinas” do’s and don’ts:
“Cool girls choose not to complain or talk about things for too long that are not other people’s responsibility, or impossible to solve given the current situation.
Cool girls can bring funny positive ideas and feelings to situations to create an experience that men will want to have again and again.
Cool girls know they don’t have to control everything in a situation to get a good result. They are willing to go with the flow in social things. But they do make their opinions and ideas known when they want to. Cool girls do not feel restricted in speaking their minds.
Cool girls always have activities and things to do that keep them satisfied so that they don’t feel bad, or left out, if they are not invited to a party. Even if they don’t have anything else immediately that they can do to keep busy, they do not complain about it, or even mention it. They can always find something to do that makes them happy.
Cool girls prefer a man who makes up his own mind. They don’t try to make a man do something he really doesn’t want to do.
Cool girls DO know that the way they feel and talk about themselves is how men will feel about them.”
Cool girls use verbal and non-verbal communication skills when they are dating and in a relationship. If this means taking a breath and counting to 10 to themselves before they answer a man’s questions, that’s what they will do.
They check their moments of strong anger. They are definitely not “cool”, especially if they are frequent. They know it is better to stay calm and objective.
If you feel you need to make a change in your relationship, you can start by changing yourself…and start being “cool”.